Taylor Swift and the Victim Shaming She Wasn't About to Let Happen
Taylor Swift appeared in court yesterday to testify against a radio DJ from Denver who thought her ass was his to grab during a meet and greet.
To give a little background: after this happened, the DJ was fired from his job, so he tried to sue Taylor for Defamation of Character. For $3million.
So she's now countersuing him (for just $1 by the way, because we don't need your money, money, money) for assault and battery.
This brings us to yesterday, where Taylor took the stand for about an hour, and shook off every swing the DJ's lawyer tried to take.
When asked if she should instead be critical of her bodyguard for not reacting sooner, she answered with: "I'm critical of your client sticking his hand under my skirt and grabbing my ass."
When asked what she could have done differently, she responded: "Your client could have taken a normal photo with me.”
And when it was suggested that Taylor had ruined this poor man's career and reputation, this was her comeback: “I’m not going to allow you or your client to make me feel like this was my fault, because it isn’t," and “I’m being blamed for the unfortunate events of his life that are a product of his decisions. Not mine.”
I've been a juror on a sexual assault case, and I've heard victim-blaming first hand. Sometimes it's more subtle suggestions than what Ms Swift had to face, but sometimes it's not. Remember the Stanford rape case? Of course you do. During that trial, the victim (known as Emily Doe) was asked questions like "You did a lot of partying in college, right?” and "How much do you weigh?"
I know I'm preaching to the choir here, Strong Women Squad, but it doesn't matter what you weigh, what you eat, how much you drink, what skirt length you wear, what the people around you do, or how you react when it's happening to you. You are not responsible to keeping an attacker in check. The attacker is.
You're the boss of you and you alone, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise.